Managing Mental Health During the Holidays

When the Holidays Aren’t Always “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year”

As the holiday season approaches, messages of joy, gratitude, and togetherness fill our feeds and conversations. But for many people, this time of year can bring something very different — increased stress, loneliness, grief, or anxiety. At BrightSpire Health, we understand that the holidays can stir up complex emotions, and we want you to know: it’s okay to not feel okay this season.

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The Emotional Weight of the Season

The holidays often carry expectations of happiness and connection, but real life doesn’t always match the picture-perfect scenes we see around us. Family tensions, financial strain, memories of loss, or disrupted routines can all make this season feel overwhelming. Even the shorter days and reduced sunlight can take a toll, contributing to seasonal affective disorder (SAD) or other mood changes. For those already managing depression, anxiety, trauma, or other mental health challenges, these factors can amplify symptoms.

Common Holiday Triggers

• Loneliness and isolation: Feeling disconnected while others seem surrounded by loved ones.

• Grief and loss: Holidays can highlight the absence of those we miss.

• Financial pressure: The costs of gifts, travel, and events can create additional stress.

• Overcommitment: The push to “do it all” often leads to burnout or resentment.

• Unrealistic expectations: Comparing your life or family to idealized images can erode joy and self-worth.

Coping Strategies That Can Help

There’s no single way to navigate the holiday season, but small intentional choices can help you protect your mental and emotional well-being:

1. Set boundaries. It’s okay to say no to events, conversations, or commitments that drain you.

2. Prioritize rest and routine. Try to keep consistent sleep, meals, and self-care practices.

3. Acknowledge your feelings. Allow yourself to grieve, rest, or feel sadness without guilt.

4. Reach out for support. Talk to a trusted friend, counselor, or therapist. You don’t have to carry this alone.

5. Create new traditions. Let the season reflect what truly brings you peace or meaning — not what’s expected.

You’re Not Alone

If the holidays are difficult this year, remember that help is available and healing is possible. At BrightSpire Health, our compassionate therapists provide a safe space to explore your emotions, process stressors, and find balance through the season and beyond.

Whether you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, or simply feeling stretched too thin, reaching out for support can be the first step toward relief and renewal.

If you need someone to talk to, we’re here. [Book an appointment →] Schedule a session with one of our therapists today and find strength, balance, and hope — even in the midst of the holiday rush.